Below is a brief overview of C-A-R-E:

 

• Use this as a guide to listen in a way that let’s the person know they’re being heard and they’re not alone.

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(These Steps may vary).

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1. CONFIRM THEIR FEELINGS

Tell them what they're feeling is alright and that you trust them. Confirmation sounds like

 

• “I understand what your saying”

• “That sounds hard”

• “I’m sorry you are in pain right now.”

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2. AKNOWLEDGE THEIR COURAGE

Talking up can be a difficult step — let them know it's a ok to speak up. Likewise show you're there to help them. Acknowledgment sounds like

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• "I got a lot from that."

• "I understand how you fell"

• "You are not alone."

 

3. REFER THEM TO SKILLS AND SUPPORT

Let them know help is accessible and refer them to appropriate resources. Refer sounds like

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• “Sometime setting aside time and effort for self-care and taking a walk in the park or listening to positive podcast relaxes me, can we do that together?”

• “I’ve been watching you tube meditations. It’s really helped me slow down my thoughts.”

• “It might be a good idea to talk to someone. I'll stay with you while we call/text a hotline.”

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4. EMPOWER THEM 

To make informed decisions and implement change in their lives.  Encourage them to do great things for themselves and also to make great impact in their society. Share positive Affirmations.

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• I am in the divine right space

• I can do anything I put my mind to

• I am awesome

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How  C-A-R-E  works 

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In this real-life example, Steven saw his cousin Malachi was acting out in school  and recognized that there might be something wrong. 

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He said Malachi was stressed about changing his environment being  away from his parents and changing to the new school. He was not doing his school work  and was having trouble sleeping and concentrating. He came home one day upset by the response he had received sharing with his friends. 

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They had told him things like: ‘You’re in high school , we all have problems,’ ‘That's just how it is,’ and ‘You’ll be alright.’  He didn’t feel like his friends were really listening or that they understood the extent of his anxiety. 

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Steven response to his cousin shows C-A-R-E in action.

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He first confirmed his feelings: “That sounds hard. I understand how you feel, overwhelmed and stressed, especially being apart from your parents moving from one city to another and to a new school.”

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Then he Acknowledged his courage" I got a lot from that and I understand how you feel.

He then referred him to check in with skills and support he asked him to talk with his basketball couch or counselor about how he feels.  "Have you tried any self help activities. " I know you like like running track to relax.  "Have you been on the track lately?"

Finally Empower him : I know you can do anything you put your mind to.  You are Awesome.

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